Discipline is a Form of Love!
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Disciplining your child can be difficult, but it is an imperative part of parenting. It teaches your child self-control, responsibility, accountability, and a value system they will use for life. Discipline is a form of love.
Parents establish and enforce rules so their children can learn to get along with others, to teach them to make the right choices, and to protect them from harm. Children raised without reasonable limits will have difficulty adapting socially. When in an environment where parents are always trying to please the child, we feed into a sense of entitlement and raise ungrateful kids and adults. |
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Positive Reinforcement and Consequences
You can use positive reinforcement and consequences to change your child’s behavior and habits if you wish. By using consequences and reinforcement effectively, you can raise your children into adults who exhibit traits such as gratefulness, respect, responsibility, integrity, work ethic, kindness, and the ability to get along with others.
Consequences
Teach your child that there will be consequences for undesirable behavior. If you are consistent, this will teach your child to think about the choices they make in the future. Here are some examples of consequences.
Consequences help to teach your children the desired behaviors and change their habits. They are not intended to be a punishment.
- Time Out – Placing your child in time out will give them time to think about their actions and identify better choices. A basic recommendation used by some is that a child should be in time out for one minute for each year of their age.
- Natural Consequences – Natural consequences happen naturally. If your child refuses to wear their stocking cap, then they will have cold. ears. Natural consequences are especially effective because it is a direct consequence of the choice made by your child and doesn’t need to be enforced by a parent. Another example is leaving something special outside, and it gets ruined or stolen.
- Logical Consequences – Logical consequences are directly related to the misbehavior. If your child mistreats a toy, the toy would be taken away. Usually the adult will give the child a choice. For example, treat the toys with care or the toy will be taken away.
- Practice – Discuss the desired behavior with your child. Then have your child practice the desired behavior. Choose a time to practice during their free time or play time. Let your child know that if they need practice, you'd be happy to show them and let them practice.
- Ignoring – if your child exhibits attention-seeking behavior, it may work to ignore the behavior. You may need to make sure you are giving them attention when they are exhibit the right behavior. It is important to make sure they are getting enough attention, and we provide ideas for family fun (even ideas that only take 10 minutes).
- Loss of privilege – Taking away privileges for a period of time. Give the child the opportunity to learn from their mistakes and earn back their privilege.
Consequences help to teach your children the desired behaviors and change their habits. They are not intended to be a punishment.
Positive Reinforcement
You can provide positive reinforcement by letting your child know that you notice them making good choices. The Encouraging Character in Kids program gives you the tools to provide positive reinforcement and teach good character.
For some children, praising your child and using our program will be enough to modify behavior and teach character. Some children may need incentives. If you would like to provide Incentives, we provide a list of simple ideas such as
The Encouraging Character in Kids Parenting Toolkit provides all of the tools to provide your child with positive attention and praise while reinforcing the behaviors and character traits you want them to learn. Begin providing positive reinforcement now because your kids are important!
Daily Character Charts
Weekly Character Charts
Character Curriculum
For some children, praising your child and using our program will be enough to modify behavior and teach character. Some children may need incentives. If you would like to provide Incentives, we provide a list of simple ideas such as
- Spending extra time outside
- Biking with a parent
- Making paper airplanes with a parent
- Staying up late
- Spending time with friends
- Having a Family Fun Night
The Encouraging Character in Kids Parenting Toolkit provides all of the tools to provide your child with positive attention and praise while reinforcing the behaviors and character traits you want them to learn. Begin providing positive reinforcement now because your kids are important!
Daily Character Charts
Weekly Character Charts
Character Curriculum